I look forward to the day when I feel more comfortable saying the words out loud: I’m asexual.
All in Personal
Existing and Defying Stereotypes as an A-spec Disabled Person
It’s something that is often assumed, and not often discussed: the stereotype that people with disabilities do not have sex or have conventional relationships.
Words
I’m so much more complicated than our neat, simple and tidy words can describe, and maybe we all are.
By Any Other Name
You’re asexual. It’s more complicated than that, but it is something that finally feels yours.
Cake and Ice Cream
“Let's say there's a kind of dessert that's everyone's favorite but yours.“
Coming Out (Again)
Not wanting sex or possibly never having it doesn’t make me or anyone else less than or broken.
"Bi Ace... is that a thing?"
I’m more asexual than bisexual, but that’s only because so many conversations end up revolving around sex.
Asexuality and Me
On the internet, many of the asexuals I’ve come across have been white. And while I appreciate that they are out there, it’s hard to relate to them. A white asexual person will never understand my struggle as a black asexual person.
"Meaningless Sex"
For me, having sex never completes me. On the contrary, it usually makes me feel worthless, even when I’ve had sex consensually.
On Being Asexual and Kinky
But… how could I be asexual and a fetishist? Aren’t those two things completely in conflict with one another?
On Shedding Shame: Embracing My Asexuality
Asexuality is such a valuable way to experience and navigate human connection, and I now know much better than to feel otherwise.
Pride and Prejudice
I couldn’t think, speak, or move. I’ve rejected him three times, but three times was not enough for him.
Dear Sex Ed
A letter by Gretchen Turonek.
The "Threat" of Sex
Sex can be a weapon – a dagger that can leave wounds that will never fully heal.
My Waking Up
We grew up hearing that we had to admire and aspire to be with these alluring people, so that we could have sex with them and have nice children: “hay que mejorar la raza.”
Free Toy Included
Growing up as a second-generation Chinese Australian, I was constantly learning that the norm was actually just my norm.
Verbalizing Attraction
How do I explain that the “connection” they conceptualize as friendship represents a lot more to me? What does “more” mean to an asexual, anyway?
Queen of Aces
“And what life is, often, is highly sexual – for most people, anyway. Or at least, that’s my understanding of it.”
Navigating Toxic Masculinity as a Demiguy.
Toxic masculinity is still clouding my gender vision. I feel in my soul that I am a non-binary, but I cannot deny that this conclusion remains constrained - pushed and pulled by the toxic masculinity that has always surrounded and regulated my life.
