“I - really? You still want to be friends even if I don’t want to date you?”

“’But for one glorious moment, I touched the sun.’”

“You’ve never been kissed?! You’re joking.”

fortunately, this is rarely an issue with my gay friends since i'm clear about my boundaries. i do feel like an outcast at times, though.

So for now, I’ll walk that tightrope of compromise, walk, and fall and fall again until I have my footing.

But what if both perspectives meet somewhere in the middle? What if they weren’t straight, and what if they weren’t gay? What if they were homoromantic, even asexual?

I can finally say, I am much healthier and happier without her. From 2022 until some day, I have someone who understands the Asexual experience, and loves me.

Hermit crab essay by Justin Ancheta.

I gaze at the mirror, as if trying to decipher the ancient mystery of my identity, of my true self–

Asexuality is not a mental illness, but if you’re a depressed and anxious demisexual just trying your best, blaming your sexuality that you’ve suddenly started talking about on mental illness can worsen queer imposter syndrome.

For a time, it made me feel worse, a freak in all parts of my life. I wouldn’t get my happily ever after, someone to spend my days with, someone who was mine and no one else’s.

But what can a single plastic rose do?

“But you realize he’s probably not asexual.” “Definitely not asexual.” “Then why do you wanna ruin his life?”

We need to replenish ourselves before we can offer anything to someone else.

In Midnight Sun, Edward struggles with experiencing attraction in a different way than his partner, and then faces the distinct challenge of trying to explain it. Reading Twilight from his point of view made me feel like someone – albeit a fictional vampire – understands.

"No, I think they really were just friends."

Was she indeed dealing with one of those asexuals? I still don’t know…

I am now beginning to see the dichotomy of blooming alloromanticism and allosexuality versus cold aromanticism and asexuality.

Perhaps I can finish typing this and finally realize that as much as I adored you back then, that adoration is finally leaving.

They were nice guys but when I brought up if they were okay with my asexuality they seemed conflicted.

I didn’t consciously desire people's attention or affection, but I loved when I had it.

Before you realized you were different, you had already made peace with loneliness.

At my age, 64, I could use the help, especially with the carrot.

People say, “You’re in love, you’re married, and yet you haven’t had sex?” Is there only one form of love?

Self-love entails acceptance and compassion towards yourself: you begin to acknowledge that your experiences are valid and important.

It’s taken time to untangle these synonyms.