And there is a label for people like me: asexuality. But how do I condense myself into the ‘a’ in ‘asexuality’? That ‘a’ means ‘not.’ That ‘a’ means ‘lacking.’
All in 2019
The Tightrope
Coming to terms with being aromantic asexual offered an opportunity to pursue what I wanted for myself. To reject the premise that my existence is centered on my appeal to men.
Aquinas Strikes Out at Ave Maria University
Aquinas hadn’t been asked about his celibacy, although he would have revealed that his state of purity was chosen for its liberating potential
The Gutter
And suggest a round while we’re here
Because I’ll spare you the lecture
And find the door,
Ten pins left erect.
TOUCH
To have every cuddle, every kiss, every hug, just be seen as a path to sex - I didn’t want that.
Untitled
It is a statement about the feeling of deformity and emptiness I experience when I compare myself to my allosexual peers.
When I Found My Asexual Heart
I just wanted to pass
beneath your hot gaze,
pass beyond the glass
door to my desire:
a venti vessel filled
with iced chai.
Figuring it Out
You think everyone’s just faking it because that’s what’s cool, but you still don’t get why it’s cool.
Siren Seeking Sailor
You may hear that us sirens eat the bodies of the shipwrecked. Many do. I've simply never found it appealing.
Vol. 3, Issue 1: Discovering Identity
The Asexual asks writers and artists to discuss experiences of discovering identity—a task which is often difficult in a world where our identities are obscured.
The Emergence of Asexual Identity
What the endurance of this phrase over decades of time can tell us about societal perceptions of asexuality should not be minimized, especially given the phrase’s deeper assumptions.
“The word of a Prince”: Representations of Virginity in the Speeches of Queen Elizabeth I
Elizabeth’s androgynous language supports her status as a virgin married to her kingdom — simultaneously both and neither woman and man, wife and husband.
Bitters
We market bitterness as a marker of adulthood (…) Set aside such childish things as sweetness and grow up.
Once Upon A Time
Once upon a time, the girl met another asexual. “Holy shit,” she said, “This has never happened to me before. It’s like meeting a unicorn!”
Lisianthus nigrescens
"plants are all about sex, even Plato said it!"
attraction detracts
I wish attraction and wanting to have a significant relationship weren't so inextricably linked together, and the latter wasn’t assumed to fail without the presence of the former.
Floriography
My roots are steel in the ground / My stem is not for breaking / Leave this flower where it stands
Gürtel / Belts
I always thought men looked better in suits. Like, in comparison with being naked.
Since My Experiences Do Not Fit In Your Boxes
I can organize my relationships by asking myself how emotionally close and how interdependent I would like to be with a person.
Repulsed
This box was getting smaller by the second. Where did all the air go?