No word is adequate, not “lover” nor “partner,” not “friend” nor “comrade.”
All in Personal
Girlfriend For Sale
The prospect of dating has never even crossed your mind, and now you’re a “girlfriend for sale.”
Grey
Just because I’m asexual doesn’t mean I escape this body, its consequence and expectation.
The words you didn't have yet
You learn new words and labels that you relate to. You find that other people think the way you do.
That's not it
After I tell you what I mean by ‘aromantic’, you have your arms around me.
Romantic Machinations
It’s fair to say the machinations of romance elude my understanding and feel undoubtedly non-applicable to me.
Hopeless Aromantic
It blows my mind that someone would have that type of attraction to me because I would never have that type of attraction to them.
The Friendzone in Fandom
There are a wide variety of aro experiences, and there are many aro fans who enjoy reading shippy and/or romance-focused fanworks.
A Letter to M
I’m in love with you. And you don’t have to be alarmed at me saying this because you know what I mean.
Seven Steps
You are excited, you tell yourself, because you're in love.
growing up aromantic
i don’t get it. logically, conceptually, i understand it.
To reclaim simplicity
I didn’t make it complicated, someone else decided that simple things did not include me.
"love with no body"
And yet, at the same time, wanting it didn’t involve my body. No physical desire to speak of. It was never a necessary component. I just wanted to be close.
Leaving Manhood
However, since I lacked the language to explain my desires, I felt shame for not having those experiences. Because having sexual and romantic relationships proves one’s masculinity to others, I never felt accomplished as a person.
Untitled
“I’m going to count backwards from ten …”
I drift into a trance before she hits the count of 1.
You Need To Talk To Yourself
Since coming out as asexual, I’ve learned a lot more about what my kink means to me, and what it doesn’t. While there’s no doubt that I seek out tickling when I’m turned on, it’s not a turn on in itself.
And
I get to choose whether I want something to happen, how much, when, who is doing it, and, most importantly, I get to choose when to stop.
Aro-Ace Desire
There’s also the issues of fucked up desirability politics and racism. I enjoy fetishes, but to be fetishized is to be dehumanized.
We Are Whole
Thanks to discovering asexuality, I see “no” as whole because we are whole.