the thing is:
i have never actually wanted to have sex
in the mechanical sense:
insert tab A into slot B.
Aro-Ace Desire
There’s also the issues of fucked up desirability politics and racism. I enjoy fetishes, but to be fetishized is to be dehumanized.
Cleaning Off Things You Have Put in Your Vagina
This is something like a baptism
After all these years
Still trying to wash the forbidden
from the fruit
Critical Reflections on “Ace of (BDSM) Clubs” and Linking Asexuality to BDSM: Where are we Starting From?
…kink can be the space where they finally feel at home, or even more marginalized than before.
Vol. 3, Issue 2: BDSM / Kink
AZE invites ace, aro, and agender authors to explore the intersections between their experiences and BDSM / Kink.
“For he never makes love”: Reclaiming Asexual Representation in Julia Ward Howe’s The Hermaphrodite
Locating Laurence’s asexuality is an important act of reclamation for asexual history, as it demonstrates that asexuality is a necessary aspect of understanding the historical record of human attraction and desire.
Indigenous Ways of Knowing and Decolonial Resource List
Indigenous ways of knowing and decolonial resource list.
We Are Whole
Thanks to discovering asexuality, I see “no” as whole because we are whole.
That's What Ze Said
Can I open
my arms to them,
to me?
asexual education is important because:
I didn’t know there was a word for people like me, so I never looked for one.
Thanks for the Invalidation
Where my identity as an asexual is seen as a choice hastily made, as if I only need a little persuasion, as if I just one day decided to stop being sexually attracted to others.
On Running and Asexual Embodiment
Before I could name it, I felt my asexuality as truly as my feet felt every step of a run. I now claim it as fully as I claim my body.
Seven of Wands
This card is my life. I am always engaged in combat.
Blackjack
the only counting I did
was not of cards
but of conversations
where I was called
a prude
innocent
Finding Identity
But for now, I’m holding on. Because there’s nothing wrong with me. And there never was.
A
And there is a label for people like me: asexuality. But how do I condense myself into the ‘a’ in ‘asexuality’? That ‘a’ means ‘not.’ That ‘a’ means ‘lacking.’
The Tightrope
Coming to terms with being aromantic asexual offered an opportunity to pursue what I wanted for myself. To reject the premise that my existence is centered on my appeal to men.
Aquinas Strikes Out at Ave Maria University
Aquinas hadn’t been asked about his celibacy, although he would have revealed that his state of purity was chosen for its liberating potential
The Gutter
And suggest a round while we’re here
Because I’ll spare you the lecture
And find the door,
Ten pins left erect.
TOUCH
To have every cuddle, every kiss, every hug, just be seen as a path to sex - I didn’t want that.